Romance can’t be dead, can it?

When you first get married, romance is flowers, chocolate and gifts. At least that’s what we perceive romance to be. As ones marriage evolves, romance should too. We were married for 3 years before we decided to add another addition to our family. Now 7 years I can honestly say what real romance is.

Helping other with household chores

Keeping in mind the others favorite food

Calling to see if we need anything from the store.

Talking to one another before making plans.

Asking about the others day and actually listening.

Sending an I love you text in the middle of the day.

Kiss when leaving each other.

This is only successful if both spouses put the other first. If only one person is doing everything for the other and the family, there will be burnout and a lot of tension. After becoming parents, all the focus and energy is shifted to the kids. We have to work together to make the household run. If one is keeping score, it will never be successful. Instead it’ll become a competition and that’s not healthy. Kids imitate everything their parents do. If the parents are working together to keep the house in order, the kids will automatically follow. Does this mean everything will be 50/50? Definitely not. I currently am staying home with the kids and handle majority of the household responsibilities because my spouse works longer hours. It wouldn’t be fair for him to come home and do more household chores. When we’re both home on the weekend then it’s more split. The key is to be considerate of the others thoughts and feelings. With that, it’ll help the family function and everyone remain happier. So no romance isn’t dead, but it definitely has transformed.